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How to Endure When You Feel Stuck

How to Endure When You Feel Stuck

Mariel Davenport · December 14, 2020 · Leave a Comment

I have been in a marriage I wanted out of, even sought ways to leave. By God’s stunning and undeserved grace, I stayed.

So did my husband.

But before you read that too fast, please know that getting from then until now in our marriage was a long, hard, and ugly road. 

During a recent time with the Lord, Ephesians 6:20 so captivated my heart in a fresh way. Paul asked the believers to pray for him while in prison. 

The words might be given to me in opening my mouth boldly to proclaim the mystery of the gospel, for which I am an ambassador in chains, that I may declare it boldly, as I ought to speak.

Ephesians 6:20 ESV

This was his prayer request while in prison?! 

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All I could think of is how quickly I pray for an out when God wants to do something in my staying, whether it’s a hard marriage, long-term illness, financial ruin, or a stressful job.

I am far quicker to pray for it to dissipate and want it gone than I am to pray, like Paul, for boldness right there in it. 

How is it that my husband and I stayed when our hearts wanted out?

How is it that anyone stays when the desire to run overtakes them? Not only from an unstable marriage but even from that which we have no choice to run from, such as a health diagnosis, the pain of a wayward child, being a caregiver to an elderly parent, or deep grief that hounds us. Life doesn’t always afford us the luxury of packing up and picking a new one. In fact, rarely is that an option. 

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3 Ways to Endure When You Feel Stuck

Paul knew this well, as he sat in prison writing to the church at Ephesus. But he gives us a beautiful example of how to remain in the hard circumstance. He didn’t just grin and bear it. Far from it! 

1). He asked others to pray for him. 

In Ephesians 6:19, he asks the believers in Ephesus for prayer, not for his release, but for his boldness as he stays. 

2). He took his eyes off himself. 

It’s easy to send out pity-party invitations when we feel stuck in a staying situation of hard enduring. But not Paul. He writes this bold letter to the Ephesians to sharpen them, and in verse 22 of chapter 6 he tells them he is sending his buddy, Tychicus, for the purpose of encouraging them. Surely, he was encouraged as he took his eyes off his situation, and instead looked to encourage others in their needs. 

3). He focused on God’s plan in the situation. 

Why might the Lord have me here in this season? Nothing is in vain in the Lord’s economy, so there is a purpose in and for every season under heaven. Paul knows the Lord can use *even this* for His glory. So rather than looking at his own desire to run from the circumstance, he looks to boldly proclaim the mystery of the gospel right there in the middle of that hard place. 

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My husband and I eventually got to the place of looking towards God’s purpose, praying for God’s will, and seeking to please the Lord with our marriage. By His grace alone, we recently celebrated 21 years of marriage. But hard circumstances don’t always end that way, yet regardless of the ending, the purpose is always for us to grow in our walk with the Lord and know Him better.

When we follow Paul’s example, the ending always works together for the good of those called according to His purpose (Romans 8:28), whether we see it here or in Glory.

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How might we then be like Paul, in the inevitable hard places we find ourselves?

Who have you asked to pray for you while in your trial?

Is our focus on the problem, the pain, and the circumstance? 

Or is it on seeking what God’s good purpose might be, and how we can be a light for those around us right where we are?

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About Mariel Davenport

As an atheist transformed by the Word of God, Mariel Davenport knows the power of seeking God through His Word. She is passionate about equipping others to tend their soul by the Word as well. She does this through her TEND method, a simple process of engaging with God through the Scriptures.

She shares her method through online Tend Gatherings, Scripture journals and speaking engagements. Having been featured in places like CBN.com, Proverbs 31 ministries, Not My Story, Brave Woman Series and The Love Offering Series; Mariel has reached ladies of all ages and denominations with the joy of knowing God through His Word for themselves. She co-leads the membership community, Knowing God Through His Word, which encourages others to read through the Bible. She is co-author of Tapestry of Grace and Knowing God through the Word Scripture Journal.

Mariel is a wife to her man of nearly 25 years and a retired homeschool mama turned writer, who enjoys salsa from her garden as she pursues the Gardener who tends her soul. Tend your soul with her bi-monthly newsletter, Tending Tools, and get updates and announcements about upcoming TEND Gatherings by signing up at marieldavenport.com/tending/

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