Many years ago, when I was newly married, my husband started a new career in the police force.
A decision which meant we had to move from our hometown. Away from family for the first time. And away from the charismatic lively church we had both grown up in, where we had many friends and a busy social life.
I had to leave my job behind, away from colleagues and the world of work. Our choice, to embrace a new season of our lives, but it meant for the first time in my life I would feel very alone.
Loneliness and a sense of isolation can come from a lack of connection with other people. Sometimes a consequence of choices that we make or imposed upon us by circumstances beyond our control.
Sometimes Life Is Lonely
In this past year we have all experienced circumstances that were and are beyond our control.
Lockdown restrictions meant that many of us were no longer able to spend time with our families. Our churches closed, fellowship and communal worship all cancelled because of a virus. Many people suddenly had to work from home, or were furloughed, and found that they were spending long periods of time on their own. It reminded me of that time when I had felt very alone.Sometimes life is lonely…. Click To Tweet
We settled into our new home and found a local church. But the denomination and style of service were quite different to what we were used to. And the congregation were made up of mainly retired people.
I had not yet passed my driving test, I had no job, and I did not know anyone. It was a time of political and social unrest and being the wife of a police officer was a barrier for many people. My husband was busy with the challenges of his new job, but I found I was spending long periods of time on my own.
But, here’s the thing: it is not good for us to be alone.
We were created for relationships, to connect with God and with one another. And God reminded me that although we may have times when we are on our own, we are never truly alone.
5 Bible Verses for When You Feel Alone
1.) Deuteronomy 31:8
It is the Lord who goes before you. He will be with you; he will not leave you or forsake you. Do not fear or be dismayed.Deuteronomy 31:8
It was this verse that brought comfort and encouragement. The reminder that God goes ahead of us, that in fact God was already there in my new home, and in my new church! As I reached out to God, and received His comfort that I was not alone, there was a shift in my perspective. I began to accept that God was with me. That God had gone ahead of us and prepared this place for us. This was the right place for us to be – I could trust in the love of my Heavenly Father.
2.) 1 John 3:1
See what kind of love the Father has given to us, that we should be called children of God; and so we are.1 John 3:1
When we remind ourselves of who we are in Christ, that we are children of God, it brings an awareness of the privileges that are ours.
3.) Hebrews 4:16
Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need.Hebrews 4:16
We can ask and receive God’s grace for our time of need and to remind ourselves of the promises of God’s word. He is ever-present, we are never alone.
I began to realize that I had been looking back to what I had left behind. And because I was looking back, I was missing out on what God was providing in the present. The answer to our prayer does not always come in the shape and form we think it will. I had to be willing to be open and to reach out to those around me. And when I did, I received hospitality, love, and care from those older people. They welcomed us into their homes, and I learnt from their love, and the depth of their knowledge, of God’s word.
4.) Psalm 68:6
God sets the lonely in familiesPsalm 68:6 (NIV)
We were there for about two years, before we were moved on to another posting. What I remember most about that time, is not our differences but their kindness. It is often the hands and feet of faith, that touches our heart and makes a lasting impression. We are in the family of God, and we are not alone.
This year could be a new season for many of us, and we may need to be prepared to do things differently. Not to keep looking back at what we have left behind, but to trust in God. There is no need to fear the future, for God goes before us, and He is already there in our situation and circumstances. The answer to our prayer may also already be there – although it may be in a different shape and form from what we expect!
5.) Romans 12:5
So we, though many, are one body in Christ, and individually members one of another.Romans 12:5
We are in the ‘family’ of God, made up of different members, but united in our love for God. Today, through the internet, the family of God extends worldwide. We can find additional community and support in so many ways as we reach out to others.
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What is your experience with loneliness? Do you have any tips to help? If you would be willing to share your thoughts or a favorite verse, then we welcome your comments below.Do you feel alone? If so, you are not alone… Click To Tweet
About the Author
Sharon Hazel has always been actively involved in her local church, with a love for Bible study and sharing from God’s word with different groups. She is a wife and mother of two ‘grown-up’ sons and is embracing a new season of her life as a writer. Sharon receives inspiration from the beauty of the coastline where she lives in Wales and blogs at Limitless-Horizon.com
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